It’s all well and good to understand the theory of things.
Like that your fears are keeping you stuck inside your cozy, safe little comfort zone and that in order to have the epically awesome life that you want, then you need to face those fears and bust through your comfort zone. That’s a truth that a lot of you I’m sure have heard before in one way or another…hopefully from me in the last few weeks! Oh, and if you haven’t, fear not, you can catch up on all of this HERE.
It’s one thing to know this about your comfort zone, but something differently entirely putting into practice in your life through action.
Where are you right now…have you got the theory down but are still paralyzed when it comes to taking action and doing what will ACTUALLY change your life?
Another way to ask that question would be asking how committed you are to creating the epic, awesome life that you want. Committed enough to do what might seem rather scary at the...
For the last few weeks I’ve been chatting a ton about how fear can keep you locked safely within your comfort zone…and in a life that you’re not loving.
If you’re after massive life transformation then I hate to break it to you, but you’re NEVER EVER going to get it until you recognize how fear is holding you back and take the action required to get over it.
And if you need a little more convincing, because yes, the idea of facing your fears may not be particularly pleasant (though it does get waaaaaaay better I promise) then read on…
Here are the top 5 reasons (there are about 100000 more I could list…) why getting out of your comfort zone and smashing through your fears is THE BEST thing you’ll ever do for yourself:
If you’re anything like me when I was all stuck in my Quarter Life Crisis, you may be feeling insanely lost and confused about where you should be headed in life, let alone how to get...
I’ve been chatting quite a bit recently about fear and how it can massively hold you back in life. I know first hand how hard it can be to recognize how fear is holding you back in your own life so I’m hoping that by sharing one of my own biggest fears, how I recognized it, what I did to overcome it and how dramatically my life then changed, it might help you to do the same.
Let’s get down to it. So in my 36 years of life, the biggest and most restrictive fear I’ve ever had:
This was during my 20s/early 30s (or what I like to call my Quarter Life Crisis decade) that I lived totally and completely under the shadow of this fear. I was scared that I’d never meet ‘the one’, get married, have kids and the family life that I enjoyed growing up, find work I was passionate about and live with the sense of freedom that only exists when life just feels right.
I let this fear run my life.
We’ve all heard of it. And no doubt, like me, your mind goes straight to those big scary things like shark attacks, spiders crawling on your face at night, ‘those’ conversations with people, creepy noises at night, death, you know, the usual scary stuff.
It’s time to consider how fear has shaped your life.
And we’re not talking those big old obvious fears I’ve just mentioned. We’re talking those everyday fears that keep you stuck where you are, in your comfort zone.
FEAR is a feeling induced by perceived danger or threat which ultimately causes a change in behavior.
If your life currently isn’t all that you thought it would crack up to be, it’s highly likely (I can pretty much guarantee) that it all comes down to what you fear and how much you fear it.
Fear is keeping you stuck where you are, within your comfort zone, and the only way forward to the life that you’re after, is to take a big breath, step forward and...
If you’re currently not really loving your life/it’s a bit of a snooze/you aren’t really sure what the deal is but you know that it’s not nearly as good as you’d thought it would be growing up/you spend hours upon hours on Google trying to find that new career, boyfriend, job, city to live in, apartment, clothes, sperm donor, friends, whatever it is you feel is currently missing…it’s time to have a look at your life.
And before you get all worried I’m going to go all deep on you, fear not, this will be (relatively) easy!
What do you do each day? What’s your routine? Do you do the same stuff day in day out? Is your life super predictable?
The mundaneness of my life was THE key feature of my life during my Quarter Life Crisis. I was in a rut. Like a really deep rut that at the surface didn’t seem too bad but was, and had been for years, sapping the happiness out of me. I was...
In my last post, I talked about how simple mindfulness can be. It really is just a wonderful collection of personal practices that are designed to either:
And with the powers of these things combined, you end up with the a life you absolutely love and is a perfect reflection of you. Boom!
So let’s focus on the happy part of this equation.
What can you do RIGHT NOW to start pouring the happiness into your life?
To start with, and it took me FOREVER to get the memo on this one…
I fought this one bad. Like how does that make any sense? I hate my life right now and I want a new one so why would I put any effort into liking the one that I’m currently stuck in? Life just isn’t being fair to me, none of this is my fault, I’m so hard done by, I deserve so much better, blah, blah, blah…
All that is exactly what went through my head when I first...
By now you’ve likely heard about mindfulness…it’s kind of a ‘thing’ at the moment isn’t it. But what really is it?
I stumbled upon mindfulness when I was oh so deep in my Quarter Life Crisis and really at a loss to do with my directionless, happinessless and generally crap life.
During the steep climb out of my Quarter Life Crisis, I really had no idea what this stuff was called that was so easily and 100%, totally and completely transforming my life into all the awesomeness it is now. It worked so I didn’t really care.
I did however recognize that there was something not so mainstream about all the book, blogs and podcasts I was consuming at such a completely frantic rate. I kept this new found knowledge and way of viewing life a mad secret from everyone around me for fear of being labelled some new aged crazy hippie freak and being cast out of my normal middle class life. Truth be told, there are still a whole lot of people that I...
It’s all very well and good to be talking about all the cool self-love stuff stuff that you can do, but I know how helpful it can be to also address is the don'ts. You know, the things that you might be doing or thinking that you're unconscious of or you think might have some epic impact on your life, but are actually doing the exact opposite of what you intent. Damn!
My quarter life crisis lasted as long as it did (it was about a decade...go me!) because ALL I focused on was changing the career I didn’t love, the job that made me bored, the friends that weren’t particularly nice, the lack of a significant other and spending my time doing crap that just didn't make me happy.
Those external circumstances weren’t the problem, it was my internal state and more specifically my relationship with myself that was. No matter how much effort I put into changing these circumstances, I never seemed to make...
As a super regular, relatively 'normal' person, when I first came across this mindfulness stuff I too was all 'that's for weirdo hippy freaks and I don't like incense' and went back to being all lost, confused and disillusioned my life thinking I knew better.
Unsurprisingly my quarter life crisis got more and more annoying and as this happened more and more books, podcasts, random conversations and the like kept coming my way about mindfulness, the universe and all this 'woo-woo' stuff.
Eventually I decided to pay attention, try something totally new and I am grateful every single day that I did because I learned the key to living the best life ever.
I still struggle with this whole 'woo-woo' thing from time to time because these ideas aren't particularly mainstream (although they are becoming more so) and who wants to be different, even if it does mean an epic, amazing life?
It took me years to start a meditation practice (which can literally be as simple...